1) Less complaining, more solutions. Hearing someone constantly complain is definitely at the top of the "most annoying list". We all know the saying "it's easier said than done", well it's also easier to complain than to be proactive. Next time, try coming up with a few solutions yourself before making your partner feel like shit.
2) Less texting, more calling. "Why did they only text me back now?" "Why do they "sound" pissed (through text...)?" "Why no smiley face or heart?" Can all be avoided by calling more often. You can't tell emotions through text, and you have much higher chances of overthinking and analyzing absolutely nothing. Plus, it's just nice to catch up on the phone for a few minutes rather than text all day about nothing interesting. Guys and girls alike, just start using that call button already!
3) Less analyzing, more asking. Unless you're some sort of scientist, there is really no reason why you need to overanalyze EVERY SINGLE LITTLE THING. If something is bothering you/causing anxiety/making you wonder, just ASK. I guarantee the other person will be more than glad to clear things up rather than deal with a stressed-out-amateur-relationghip-analyst-head-case.
4) Less lying to yourself, more realizing. If you find yourself often making up excuses for your partner's behaviours, it's time to stop. If you're single/dating around, then don't waste your time when the other person is clearly displaying how NOT serious they are. If you're still not sure, I strongly recommend reading my post on how to know they just playin'.
5) Less arguing, more sex. Chances are if you're "suddenly" irritated by every single little thing, an argument is brewing, and it's going to happen over something really stupid, really soon. Take that frustration, impatience, and irritation, and just release your stress ASAP in the best way possible.
6) Less stressing, more chilling. Ok so the kitchen isn't clean, or you have a lot of work to catch up on. Please explain to me how this is the end of the world? Please explain to me why this can't wait another day? Please explain to me why these things are more important than spending quality time with your s/o? Please just chill. You're adding unnecessary stress on BOTH people, and not exactly prioritizing the right things in life. The kitchen can f**cking wait ok.
7) Less work, more fun. Dear workaholics, just hear me out for a second. You're working 8+ hours a day (probably way more especially when including commute time). Assuming you sleep on average 8 hours a night, close to 70% of your time awake is spent working, and I'm sure that percentage is much higher for a large number of people. Yes I know we all have to make ends meet, but just keep in mind time FLYES, no work can bring you the amount of happiness and love a relationship can, and I'm sure when you'll be 80 you won't be thinking back at all that time spent at the office.
8) Less fear, more taking chances. We have all gotten our hearts broken at least once. But let's stop this whole "eye for an eye" mentality with dating, shall we? Just because you got hurt, or betrayed, or cheated on, etc, IN NO WAY means that you should go ahead and treat others the same way. Treat others the way you want to be treated, always. Furthermore, do not let fear take over your love life. No one wants to hear "well I'm sort of afraid/careful now because of what my ex did to me". You are pushing others away, and closing yourself off to potentially great relationships.
9) Less spending, more getting to know yourself. No, you do not need to buy a new outfit for your first date. No, the other person will not give a shit if you have a designer watch or not. All that time you spend on SPENDING, would actually be a lot more useful if you were simply getting to know yourself a bit better, in order to really understand what/who you are looking for. What makes or breaks a first date is not your outfit, but your conversations, how you talk about yourself, the energy you give off, and overall chemistry. If you don't take the time to get to know yourself, other people won't either.
10) Last but not least: spend less time talking to different people, and more time talking to one. I mention this in my Tinder Tips post, but seriously, a huge difference today versus 15 years ago, is that there is ALWAYS something/someone else only a click away. We are BOMBARDED with information and options, and although there are a lot of advantages to that, unfortunately I believe it has created more disadvantages with regards to dating. It is a lot easier for people to cancel a date because they know that they can easily get another one with someone else the next day anyways. It is a lot easier for people who crave attention to waste other people's time just by talking to them for months. It is also a lot easier to lose focus on a person who had great potential, just because there are so many other good looking people you matched with. Now I'm not saying that you should avoid online dating if you're looking for a relationship. I am, however, saying to stop longing for attention, stop focussing on collecting useless matches, and focus on getting to know one at a time instead.