Why You Should Be That #NoBS Friend

Sometimes, we may wonder if we should just keep our thoughts to ourselves when it comes to the dating/love life of a friend. Here is why you should be that friend who says it how it is, #No BS:

1) Most people are just telling your friend what they want to hear.

2) You're being a GOOD friend.

3) Your friends will respect you.

4) If they don't listen to your advice, and the same sh*t keeps happening over and over again, you can tell them you don't wanna hear about it anymore, your job is done.

5) Most of the time you will simply be telling them what they NEED to hear.

6) You're not being rude or pretentious in any way as long as you speak to them respectfully.

7) You will not feel or be two-faced.

8) They're asking for your opinion, so why should you lie or not say anything?

9) They will (hopefully) appreciate your way of thinking.

10) You'll see who your real friends are, because fake friends won't keep asking you for advice when what they really want is simply some attention. #SorryNotSorry but real friends aren't meant to only give compliments. 

Why You Should Go On REAL Blind Dates

Unfortunately with the internet and social media, if someone is setting you up on a date, you can already know A LOT about them before even meeting them. Well here is my challenge to you: if someone is setting you up on a date, DO NOT Facebook/Instagram/Twitter/LinkedIn stalk them! In fact, don't even ask to see a picture of them, until you meet them in person. 

Here's why:

1) You might miss out on someone great, and not even know it. So someone wants to set you up, and they immediately show you a picture of them thanks to #smartphones. The person isn't really your type physically, so you automatically decline. First, a lot of people look completely different in real life compared to pictures, second, once you meet them you could be attracted to different aspects of them, which will then make them more physically appealing to you. Don't ever forget that initial attraction can always grow, without you even seeing it coming.

2) You might see something you don't like. Chances are if you go #SherlockHolmes on the whole social media investigation, you might see something you're not a fan of, which could be totally irrelevant or a thing of the past or a prank from friends, really you just don't know. It's really a shame that nowadays a Facebook profile seems to turn some people off more than a real profile...

3) You'll go into the first date with preconceptions. What happens when you stalk someone on social media before meeting them is that you are priming your brain. Priming is an effect that happens uncontrollably and it causes you to either have a positive or negative response once you will meet the person. Without even knowing it, you could be giving off a completely different energy because of this effect.

How You Know You've Found The One

1) The instant chemistry. Even as you see them for the first time from far away, you just can't help but smile, and you feel your heart rate going up. As you meet, it's not just a physical attraction, it's much deeper than that and can't really be explained. You're attracted to everything about them, down to the way their mouth moves as they speak, and this attraction only grows stronger with time.

2) You crave their touch. Whether it's a hand on the knee, a cuddle or a stroke on the back, their touch is the MOST comforting thing in the world. It is something that you always want, and it just happens automatically.

3) You think about them all the time. No matter how busy you are, they always just seem to pop up in your head and make you smile.

10 Lies You Need To Stop Telling Yourself Now

1) "I'm sure he/she is interested it's just that they're playing hard to get." No honey, they just are not interested.

2) "He/she SAYS it's different with me, so I'm sure it won't happen with me." I can smell the BS from 100 miles away.

3) "All his/her ex's were psychos." Hmm, watch out if they always tell dramatic stories focusing on how they've always been so perfect...

10 Reasons Why You Should Stay Single

1) You barely have any time to yourself. So you won't have any time for anyone else either don't fool yourself.

2) You're just worrying about your clock ticking. Don't think you "need" to be in a relationship because you're at a certain age. The right relationship will come when you're not stressed about it.

3) You're not over an ex. And that can also include you still being in contact with an ex BTW.

4) You're not ready to compromise. LOL definitely stay single my friend.

What It's Really Like to Live Together

I've been living with my boyfriend for about 9 months now, and he moved in a bit after 1 year of being together. This is the first time that I've lived with a s/o and although there have been some adjustments to do, and quite a bit of compromises, overall so far it has been an amazing experience, that I highly recommend to all couples, young and not-so-young. Here's what you can look forward to:

1) It's a big adjustment, and you don't really know what to expect. Even if your s/o spends a whole week at your place, living together will be different. There are some things you just can't expect and won't find out until they happen, but hey it's all part of the experience!

2) The "Honeymoon phase" or not the Honeymoon phase... Not sure if it's jut me but I won't lie, I did kind of expect to have a "honeymoon phase" the first month we lived together. Well I guess I've watched too many chick flicks. Honestly, since we were already spending 3-4 nights together per week...not much changed, and I see it as a good thing actually.

3) Splitting the bills. Most importantly, having a discussion about finances and budgetting for the rent, bills, expenses, groceries...etc. (so #adult)

Why You're Still Single

There could literally be thousands of different reasons why some people are single. Here's 10 ways of thinking that are keeping you single:

1) You don't realize that it's not about what you want, but what you need. Everyone wants Prince Charming, but it may not be Prince Charming who is the most compatible with you. Aim for someone who compliments your personality, and stop having a set criteria.


2) You don't realize that you also have to make an effort in relationships. Get off your high horse and realize that maybe certain things about you need to be changed a little. To help, check out my post on what you should and shouldn't change about yourself.

The Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating

DON'T use lame pickup lines.

DO introduce yourself.

DON'T ask anything sex or body related.

DO ask mature questions.

DON'T use pictures that are from years ago.
DO use recent pics where you are alone.

DON'T use online dating just to get laid.

DO use online dating to go on real dates.